She hit me first and I hit her back, aren’t we as bad as each other?
So, she started it and you felt you had to finish it by hitting back. Responding to violence with violence doesn’t make you more of a man. It certainly doesn't help you and your partner to resolve any problems.
Most men admit that they are physically stronger than their partners, therefore it takes a lot less from you to inflict serious damage than it does from her. Violence and abuse is wrong no matter who starts it.
It’s a choice and you choose to hit back when she hits you. You are responsible for your own violence even if you are not the one who started it. You could choose to walk away from her so you don’t become violent. Instead you choose to hit her.
Some men tell us it was ‘self-defence’! If you feel threatened by someone it makes sense to get out of harm’s way, not stay there and fight back! Think about how you can choose to remove yourself from such a situation before things get nasty. At the time you may feel like a 'loser' if you don't hit back. Once you've calmed down, though, you'll feel so much better with yourself because you managed to break the cycle of violence!